There’s so much pressure around motherhood now. Everywhere you look, someone is telling moms what they should be doing, what they shouldn’t be doing, what’s “best,” what’s “lazy,” what’s “right,” and honestly… it can get exhausting.
One thing I’ve learned over the years is that there isn’t one perfect way to be a good mom.
Some moms get the epidural. Some go unmedicated. Some breastfeed for years. Some use formula from day one. Some stay home. Some work outside the home. Some homeschool. Some count down the minutes until school starts back up again. Some make homemade dinners every night and some survive on frozen pizza during baseball season.
And truthfully? I don’t think any of those choices automatically make someone a better mother than the next.
Because underneath all of it, most moms are just trying to love their kids well while balancing a million things at once.
Motherhood humbles you really fast too. The things you swore you’d never do before kids suddenly become the things helping you survive. You realize every family functions differently, every child has different needs, and sometimes the “best” choice is simply the one that brings peace to your home.
I think moms deserve more support and less judgment. More “you’re doing great” and less comparison. More safe spaces where women can be honest about motherhood without feeling like they have to defend every decision they make.
I’ve had seasons where I felt really confident as a mom, and I’ve had seasons where I questioned everything. I’ve needed help before. I’ve cried from exhaustion before. I’ve also had moments where I looked around at my kids laughing in the middle of an ordinary day and thought, “this is exactly where I’m supposed to be.”
That’s the part I wish more people talked about. Motherhood isn’t one-size-fits-all. It’s messy and emotional and beautiful and hard all at the same time.
So whether you’re the mom who has family on speed dial every day or the mom doing it mostly alone… whether your kids eat organic homemade meals or chicken nuggets in the car between practices… whether your house is spotless or covered in laundry baskets right now…
You still deserve support.
At the end of the day, I’ll always be the kind of woman rooting for other moms. Because motherhood gets lighter when we stop competing and start showing up for each other instead 🤍